Anyone want to share tips on getting your kid to go to nursery without freaking out?
Reece is almost two and STILL struggles going.
She never went easily, but we could usually get her to stay if we either just told her we were leaving and would be back, or let her cry for a few minutes (usually until they started singing, and then she was great.)
But now, she just flips out and they end up bringing her to us.
I don't want her to get used to one of us being in there the whole time, but I also feel like she's starting to figure out that if she cries long and hard enough, she gets to leave. She's totally fine when we're in there; will play off by herself or with other kids. But I am not sure that sneaking out is the way to go, either.
Tips? Advice? HELP!
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I'm sorry! I've got nothing for ya, Jonathan has loved going to nursery since the beginning and doesn't care less about us! I'm sure things will be different with Anneli though (she's so shy of strangers!), so I'm curious to see what people will say.
Ruth is doing the exact same thing! It's frustrating to just sit in there the whole time too because she's fine! Our plan starting this Sunday is to leave her there for five minutes alone. We'll tell her we'll be right back and the just leave for five entire minutes. Then come back and spend the rest of the time with her. Next Sunday do the same thing just leave two or three times throughout the two hour period. Then the next Sunday leave for ten minutes at a time. We'll see how it goes, but that's the plan for now. good luck!
Ha ha! Don't ask me! Landon still won't go to nursery unless I go with him. I just do feel right about making the nursery people take care of my child when he's crying. So, I just stay. I'm sorry. Good Luck!
Noah still sometimes has a hard time going/staying. I think all kids go through phases where they do well and then don't. He has always had a hard time when there were a lot of other kids who were upset. He seems to go in (and stay in) when things are a bit calmer than normal. What works for him now is in the very beginning taking him into the room/side that is quiet, where they have puzzles and books. We have a huge nursery though, so in our ward this is a separate room from the other two (just adjoined by a door instead of accordian door), and usually there are no other kids in there, I just grab a leader and leave. Guess I'm not really saying much that will help. Just hang in there! I'm sure that it will get better! ..The old nursery leaders he had said we just need to let him cry it out for a few weeks. Not everyone would feel comfortable with that though (leaders or parents), but maybe something to try? I feel like what really makes the difference is good leaders who really interact with the children..might be worth asking one specific leader you trust to take her under their wing so there is someone consistent she starts to feel comfortable with?!
Good luck! :)
We had one little boy in our nursery that would not stay without his Dad. He didn't know us and didn't want to stay. His parents finally let him take his favorite blankie or a favorite ball with him and that would make it so he would stay without one of them. I don't know if you want to let her take a favorite toy or blanket, but it might help. I've even heard of some women letting their kids take their jewelery they have on that day like their bracelet so they have a little peice of Mom to help them through it. It seems like when they all reach 2 it gets tough again! Sorry, hope that helps!
Wes was like that for the longest time and then one day he just...stopped. And he's LOVED nursery ever since. I have no idea what made him stop fearing it though. I talked it up during the week..maybe that helped?
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